June 25, 2023

I'm the Captain Now



There's this very small, quirky cruise ship. It's a small scale business, nothing super flashy. It only has 4 crew members: two full-fledged officers, and two bright young cadets. One crew member serves as captain, navigator, events coordinator, and also takes care of about 75% of the galley duties. The first mate is in charge of maintenance, engineering, waste handling, and also runs the ship's comedy club. Both have very weirdly specific job descriptions, but they built these roles around a long-running partnership and somehow it works pretty well. This little venture is modest, but sustainable and even thriving. Again, nothing flashy, nothing grandiose, but the ship is sea-worthy and storm-tested, and it is chugging along, right on course and right on time. The captain is imminently capable, and her record aboard this ship is unblemished and admirable. The first mate is a resourceful and talented problem-solver, and his levity and adaptability have proven invaluable for this crew when navigating rough waters. The two are excellent foils for each other, each serving to complement the other while managing to balance out each other's particular excesses. The partnership is a triumph of luck. Their puzzle pieces fit just right. The little ship chugs along, day after day, month after month, year after year, right on course.

But one day, in the middle of a cloudless day, on calm seas, a rogue wave materializes out of nowhere. Before anyone has time to brace themselves, the wave strikes and the captain-navigator-activities-director-cook is swept from the deck and lost at sea. 

Just as quick as that. She's Gone. 


The rest of the crew pick themselves up off the dripping deck, stunned. The first-mate-engineer-janitor-clown scans the water all around in a frantic attempt to locate the captain. Maybe she's not lost. Maybe she was able to grab a life ring on her way over. Maybe if he looks hard enough he'll see the smoky trail of a flare gun. 

But there's nothing. This captain, the one he has crewed alongside for all these years to get this beautiful little ship from harbor to harbor, voyage after voyage, is nowhere to be found. The sea has taken her. 

The first mate assesses the situation. The cadets are both present and accounted for. This is good. He quickly grabs emergency blankets and scoops them up and gets them inside where they can rest against the bulkhead. Alarm klaxons are sounding. The vessel is listing somewhat. This is concerning. The hull could be compromised. The engines are definitely not at full power. He can tell the originally plotted course is no longer possible, not with this damage. This is not good.

It's at this moment the realization hits him so hard he almost loses his sea legs for a moment.

He's been promoted. 

He steadies himself against the railing and takes several deep breaths. He somehow manages to avoid vomiting. 

He takes another deep, deep breath, holds it. He stands, willing his legs to stop quivering. He stands for a moment, thinking. He nods, lets out his breath in a heavy but determined sigh, sets his jaw, and steps into the wheelhouse. 
He goes down the captain's duty list. He's watched the captain steer for years, and even spent some time at the helm a few times (but mostly just when the captain was needed elsewhere onboard and the charted course was well-mapped and clear). It's been years since he worked regularly in a galley, but he's no slouch. He sees the captain's sextant resting on top of the maps. He makes a mental note to write a joke for the ship's comedy night about how funny the word "sextant" is, but has no clue how to use it.

Another deep breath. He takes stock of his resources. He has the two cadets. They are inexperienced and scared but ready for duty. They have also been watching the captain. The senior cadet has already run to the galley and started pulling recipes. This is a good sign. He steps back out on the deck and cranes his neck upwards to glimpse the radio antenna, and sees it's untouched. This is good; he can radio nearby ships for help. He checks the distress beacon and confirms it has been activated. Before he can even reach for it, the radio receiver crackles. It's another ship reaching out. They have already picked up the beacon. Then another crackle, another nearby vessel responding to his distress call. Then another. And another. He sees a sail on the horizon. Exhaust from a smokestack on the other. Before long, there is an entire armada approaching. The radio handset is almost unusable, choked with other vessels extending offers of assistance and escort to safe harbor. 

The two cadets step up on either side of the new captain and each places a hand gently on his back. He nods to each of them, his shipmates. He reaches out and, cautiously at first, places his hand on the wheel. He feels the wooden handle, the shallow grooves worn ever so gently in the shape of the former captains fingers where she gripped and turned this wheel for years and years. His fingers don't line up just perfectly; the grip feels awkward and unpracticed. But the wheel turns fine. He'll get the hang of it. He carefully eases the throttle forward. The ship, with its still-shivering crew, shudders and clangs. But it starts to move. The ship motors forward, with a lot more smoke than he'd like, and leaving behind only the hint of a wake, but forward. The battered crew is short their most capable sailor. There are duties that require skills nobody on board has learned yet. But they are moving forward. The ship is surrounded now by other vessels, with tow ropes in hand if needed, and life rings at the ready.

By now the daylight has begun to darken, and the reluctant captain raises his eyes to the horizon. The tiniest imaginable little pin-prick of  light appears. Then it disappears. It reappears. It disappears. Reappears again. A beacon. He takes a long, slow deep breath. He lets it out. He smiles a weary smile at his crew. It will be a long, exhausting night, but this battered, listing ship is moving towards the harbor.

They're going to make it.

58 comments:

  1. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🥲🥲💕💕

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  2. Godspeed Captain Hardy & Crew. Godspeed 🙏

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  3. I'm so sorry for your loss. Continued prayers for you, the girls and your family. May you always find boats to help lead you when the water is ruff.

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  4. Beautifully written, Robert. Sending so much love and support today and in the days ahead. I will be in the armada, sailing alongside you.

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  5. This is beautiful. Continued prayers.

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  6. One: excellent work using the word “klaxon”
    Two: “ first-mate-engineer-janitor-clown” is a really solid job description for you.

    Three: Love you, man
    —Steve

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  7. Prayers for you and your precious crew!

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  8. How lucky these girls are to have had Chrissy as a mother, and now to have Robert Hardy plot their course when most of us would immediately crumble under the pressure. God doesn’t equip many people for this, but we all know that he equipped you. This doesn’t seem like the life you deserve to me, but I also know that you’re the only one who can give these girls the life they deserve in these circumstances. I thank God that you’ve built this massive village in the short times your girls have been aboard. I pray for steady seas ahead, but I also know the anchor that you already are.

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    1. Beautiful and true ♥️

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    2. Beautiful prayers for you and the girls 🙏

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  9. Beautiful! My prayers continue for you, Captain, and for your most precious cadets.

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  10. Praying for you and your family 🥹

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  11. So beautiful Robert…a beacon. She’ll be your North Star. Count me in the armada.

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  12. Prayers for you and the girls-Steady on toward that beacon of light. Let the little boats continue to reach out to you and offer your support-your captain was a beautiful force of life, and each
    moment that love lives on through each of you.

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  13. This is a beautiful tribute. Praying for smooth seas for you and your precious crew.

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  14. Beautiful. Those of us who have been praying for this crew are encouraged by your report, captain.

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  15. Beautifully written! Continued prayers for you & your family!

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  16. This is amazing! Head on Captain, she picked one who was well capable of taking the helm and your crew is second to none. The ship will be fine but never the same… God Bless

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  17. Robert, I never even knew this blog existed, and I was devastated for you and your family when I saw the news of your loss. I can’t wait to read back and read more and experience being a fly on the wall of family’s life. This entry that you wrote is so powerful. Such a clear message of hope and endurance. Indeed, the waves won‘t break your boat. (And yes, I stole that last bit from Ed Sheeran. But he’s much better with feeling than me!)

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  18. Beautiful. God will be with you on this voyage as will all of us.

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  19. What a beautiful tribute! God bless your continued voyage!

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  20. Beautiful, Robert. Perfect analogy. =Onward. We are all in wonder of your steadfastness and unflappable determination. We hold your crew in our prayers and stand ready if you ever find a need for a flare. ❤️The Greenwoods

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  21. This is Beautiful. May God carry you and your crew on your journey ahead

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  22. How beautiful. And how Chrissy would love that you are using story, character, and metaphor to help us understand this unbelievably difficult moment. Wishing you and your crew many years of safe voyages and calmer seas. ❤️❤️❤️

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  23. So beautifully written!🙏♥️🙏

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  24. Robert, you are definitely “The Little Engine That Could”. And you will!!!

    Love, Dinah

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  25. Wow! Just WOW! Love and prayers with tears continued. G.P.

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  26. Such beautiful and powerful words … truly God given 🙏🏻

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  27. Oh yes Robert. Y’all will make it and soar like eagles because you watched the master and Queen do for so long. You and the girls are loved beyond measure!

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  28. Beautifully written, but heart-rending, nevertheless. Yes. You and your two young cadets will make it to the safe harbor. Yet, we miss seeing your captain there on the deck with you. Godspeed, Cap'n Hardy, Godspeed. ♥️

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  29. Beautifully written! We are all pulling for this brave captain and his fine shipmates. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️💔

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  30. Fair winds and following seas, Hardys!

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  31. You will be an awesome captain! ❤️ Jodi

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  32. This is so touching! I know you will be an awesome captain and you have two wonderful crew mates. God will guide you! Your faith is so strong. Please know you are in our prayers daily. We love you🙏❤️

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  33. They are going to make it! Praise God.

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  34. Lisa Dinning HenningsenJune 25, 2023 at 11:44 AM

    You ARE going to make it Robert. There are sure to be some really rough days ahead… because of the great love you all shared. But there will also be special moments too and in time I pray that the beautiful memories of sweet Chrissy make you smile again. You have so many people who care about your amazing family (as evident by the full church on Friday) and will be there to help on the tough days.

    Loved reading this… so creative and beautifully written. Continued prayers over the coming days. ❤️

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  35. This is an amazing piece and shows such amazing strength and courage, new Captain. Godspeed to you and your precious crew.

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  36. Robert, it's Lauren Hogan (Tremper) -- I heard about everything this week and have been checking in. I joined in on Chrissy's memorial service and have been thinking of you and the 'cadets'. Sending so much love to you guys. If you ever want a getaway, come visit us in Seattle. Our girls are similar ages and I have a feeling the four of them would have a blast.

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  37. Beautiful and now I’m crying again, dang it. I can’t say any more than all the others have before me, except that you are well-equipped and I know that you will be well led. I’ve been reading the older posts on this blog, and see a lot of times when Chrissy said she didn’t understand why God answered prayers for Clara but not for other babies. So much wisdom is tied up in those posts. I don’t understand either, but i know that He is with you and will guide you, Captain.

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  38. This is exceptional - the writing, the plot line, the devastation, the reality, the adjustments, the leaning on God and all who are there to pray and prop the new Captain up as he press on as a crew of 3, the beacon... Count on me as one of many in your faithful armada to daily pray and lend support in myriad ways as you and your precious cadets move intentionally, faithfully, and with a storehouse of precious memories of your beloved toward your safe harbor!

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  39. My heart goes out to you with this new role you have acquired. And to your shipmates. It will be a difficult voyage but I would expect nothing less than a strong determination from you. You have a crew and a ship to bring in to a safe port snd I know you will do it! May God Blesd You All. Much love, Betty Johnson

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  40. I have no adequate words to add to what others have said. God bless you and your precious crew. Continuing love ❤️

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  41. You are quite the wordsmith, Robert! You captured beautifully what it is like to lose someone so tragically and to demonstrate a determined and resilient spirit. Sail on, brother. A privilege to be counted in the armada.

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  42. This brought me to tears, Robert. What a way to honor your sweet Chrissy. Praying for y’all.

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  43. Beautifully said. And this ship is not alone. Thank you for sharing this picture of what lies ahead and how you’re facing it.

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  44. And all this time we thought Chrissy was the writer of the crew. Godspeed, Captain.

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  45. You will be their anchor, Robert. They know it. Much love to you three.

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  46. We hope you will always feel our love and support of you , now captain and precious dad !!! Gene and Ellen

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  47. Robert, what a beautifully written description of your life moving forward. Bob and I send you and your girls our love and support. Margaret

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  48. What beautiful and inspiring reflections and images, Robert. Thank you, amen, and blessings.

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  49. Such a poignant and insightful description. And your honesty is refreshing and incites hope. Thanks for processing out loud - you’ve encouraged and challenged me today. Eagerly awaiting the comedy bit that includes “sextant”…🥰

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    1. Shelly Sipes SneadJune 26, 2023 at 8:29 AM

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    2. Love this, so Beautiful!! So sorry for your loss. I would love to maybe continue reading the story. Seems that the new captain and his crew will keep on trucking it making everyone laugh, love and maybe even cry through their new journey. Praying for you and the girls.

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  50. So well written.

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